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Regarding Texas: I’m so angry today.

From The Buried: An Archeology of the Egyptian Revolution by Peter Hessler

Hessler is making a case that a significant reason for the failure of Egyptian governments is because citizens are not looking for competent political leaders. They vote for men who lambast the “corruption and immorality” of present leaders. They vote for those who promise a “return to our traditional Islamist values.”

1. At Wheaton College in the early 70’s I was friends with D. She told me that over sophomore Christmas break she had had an abortion. She and her boyfriend had been together for a year. “We never went all the way because we knew we were supposed to wait for marriage.”

But they went pretty far and yes, one can get pregnant if they are unclothed and very, very close.  She said that the abortion is what broke her hymen. 

Abortion was not legal that year, 1972. Her rich, Southern evangelical Christian parents took her to a women’s health clinic in Pennsylvania where abortion was legal and safe.

She and that boy broke up later. He was very celebrated on campus for his good looks and creativity. I remember that.

2. I worked in the credit department at Marshall Field’s in Chicago where I met people who would influence my whole life. L was one of them. She was in her 40’s, had luscious wavy auburn hair, and always wore pretty dresses and low heels. Occasionally we took our coffee break together. One morning we were talking about romance and boyfriends and my life and hers. More about me than her because she was such a good listener. It was easy to make her laugh.

That morning, when I asked why she hadn’t had kids, she said that she had had an illegal 'botched abortion' in her twenties in the 1960’s. She almost bled to death. She went to a hospital where they saved her life but not her uterus. This lovely nurturing women never had children because she hadn’t had access to a safe medical procedure.

3. I have more stories and so do you. Today, in light of Texas’ new, draconian law, many of us are remembering our friends’ stories, our relatives’ stories, and our stories.

Send money to Planned Parenthood or some other pro-women organization. And then take care of yourself.   

 

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Remembering - yes we are. Thanks for writing this.

I support Planned Parenthood, my kids even make donations in my name for Mother’s Day! In 1965 I was 17 years old, my friend aborted herself. Years before she had overheard some women in her backwoods family talking about a “recipe” that would do the deed. She mixed up the stuff, drank it while away from home and after horrible cramps, her “ period” started. Wow, just wow! Other, wealthy girls I knew went out of the country. There will always be abortions, safe is better.
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So many scary stories. So many women twisting their physical and spiritual selves into pretzels just to survive.

I am so heavy hearted. The same people that take away the ability of a woman to get a safe abortion, won't wear a mask (which might possibly save a life) in the name of freedom. ..... Patricia

In light of your post, I have made a donation to Planned Parenthood and Texas Equal Access Fund. Sometimes I just need a reminder. I'm glad there are people around like you to do the reminding.

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Happy Birthday to Len

11/30/2022 

Today is Len’s birthday. I told him this morning I might write about him but I would let him read whatever I said first. He said not to run it past him, he’d like the surprise of reading it when you all do. Let’s see what I come up with.

1. This is cute. Len was born in Chicago’s Passavant Memorial Hospital which was the grandparent hospital to Northwestern’s Prentice Women’s Hospital - where two of our grandkids were born.

Stories, Q Club, Us

The photo is not by Len or me, its from I Love Canada on FB. I've seen a sky like that just once. 

11/21/2022

Last week I read two books about young people who left their homes. They experienced some good and too many rough experiences and they couldn’t go back until they figured out how to not be who they used to be. Both novels knocked my socks off.

The People You Keep by Allison Larkin

Covid Diary #979 - Still Paying Attention?

11/17/2022

Yes, it’s been 979 days since Friday the 13th, March 2020, when everything changed.

Last Saturday one of our kids visited for several hours with their kids. It was fun though our kid looked tired. They said they’d taken a Covid test that morning and it was negative. They figured it was the wine and rich foods they’d shared the evening before with friends at the end of a very busy week.

Next Day - What Are You Seeing?

11/9/2022

It was a late night last night, wasn’t it? Len worked at a polling place 6:30 AM until 10:30 PM. He said the actual experience is a lot like working retail (which he has not done since he was 22). Stand up most of the time, pleasantly say the same thing over and over. Wonder if lunch is soon.  

Professional reporters and pundits are talking a lot about “what just happened”, but heck, we are noticing interesting things, too.  Let’s talk about what We The People saw and heard and are watching now.

Here are some things catching my attention.

Election Day

11/8/2022 

So many times I’ve thought things were going to be okay, and then they weren’t. My dad had that heart attack and the kid who was MB back then told herself to not overthink the drama because things always turn out more or less okay. Then the next day he died.

We lost a pregnancy far enough along that we had a name picked out and a crib in which to put that child. For a week I had all the misery and cramps that go with miscarrying and I still thought somehow it was going to work out okay.

That Beep-Beep-Beeping Moment.

In spring Len got a $100 traffic ticket when he turned right at a corner we’ve been turning right at for seven years. However, construction had started and there were orange barrels and cones everywhere – plus a small sign NOT facing the street Len was on, telling drivers to not turn there.

Len went back later that day and took photos. Len called the city to mention that if they posted a sign that actually faced the traffic, the city could save the cost of the cop parked there ticketing drivers.

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