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When I’m in a certain mood I love how-to articles – and I’m in that mood right now. I think it happens at the intersection of reasonable weather and Friday ... when happiness still seems possible.

I googled “How to have a nice weekend in the time of Covid” and guess what? There are no Wiki-How articles on how to be happy in a pandemic.

Let’s invent this right here, right now.

1. Remember and imagine what you would love to do if nothing were in your way. One of the ways we humans make ourselves unhappy is to not acknowledge grief and yearning. If you haven’t longed for anything all week, that’s an awesome coping skill you have there, but once in a while you need to remember the other things you love to do.  

Len and I miss road trips. Saying it aloud reminds us that we are in a long hiatus but someday it will end. In the meantime, we drive away from home for an hour or two and remember what it feels like to be the White Horse Girl and the Blue Wind Boy.

Remember who you are and imagine widely on your own behalf.

2. Then the flip side to yearning. What is the chore about which you have been procrastinating? Don’t jot down “Declutter the house.”  Pick one specific area - maybe your work bench or the shelves that hold your cups and glasses or the silverware drawer.

Maybe you need to write to your elected reps.  Or send cheer-them-up cards to others.  Or wrestle buckthorn and invasive mustard that grows in a place you care about.

3. What is a treat you would like to eat or drink? Have you had a root beer float yet this year? Orange sherbet? A mojito or perfectly tangy brewed iced tea?

4. Have you explored parking lots “with potential” close to where you live? Like this: There’s a dead-end turn-around at the end of an access street to the Meijer’s parking lot close to here, and it looks over a huge field rimmed with woods. The long view slopes away from where you sit, in your car, by yourself, in the middle of a pandemic. In Ludington G-Park (do they still call it that, Peg?) is where you can park your car to watch the sun set into Lake Michigan. Sometimes the most interesting place to sit is your own front steps. Do you have a short list of good places to park or sit to watch the world?

6. Have you honored your longing for spirituality lately?

7. Finally, make a SHORT list of what MUST be accomplished this weekend. Essential laundry, groceries, calling your mom, mowing the grass in the front yard. Picking the zucchini before it grows into the backdoor and down the basement steps.

Make your plans now.

Friday night: Put together that nice place to sit or walk plus something summery to eat or drink. Mojito on the front steps? Root beer float while parked in the car, windows open, watching fireflies? Ice cream cone while walking along a lovely side street in your town?

Saturday: Start with the 1-2-hour chore you’ve been meaning to do. If it leads you happily into more chores, go for it. If it makes you a cranky martyr do not do more than the one thing.

Saturday afternoon and evening: Take yourself and anyone else in your realm to a park. Stay outside several hours. Maybe bring a bat and ball, kite, bubbles, whatever outdoor toys you may have around. Bring your dog with you but don’t bring your cat. Get drive-through sandwiches on the way home or make pancakes with whatever fruit is left in your house. 

Sunday: If you belong to a congregation, listen to their online service. If you don’t belong to a particular church or if you are curious - have you realized everyone is online these days?  This might be your time to explore.

Such as Ebenezer Baptist church!

Sunday afternoon: Do the must-do chores. If it takes more than two hours, you need an easier life.

Sunday evening. Make a list of the best moments of your weekend so you will remember to repeat them soon.


What are you doing in your weekends? 





Thank you Mary Beth! I hope you have a great week end. Patricia
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It always gives me a bit more oomph for the day ahead when I open my laptop to find a kind word from a welcome name. Thanks to you, also.

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